We have two adopted children. We adopted our daughter, Sara, from Pakistan in 2012 and our son, Adam, from Morocco in 2015. They are the best decision we ever made and have bought great joy into our lives. We can now fully appreciate how important this sibling relationship is to both Sara and Adam as they love each other to bits.
Sara’s adoption involved a six month stay in Pakistan, something I couldn’t do for a second time as I had to now think about the impact on my three year old. This led us to look at other countries where we could adopt a younger baby sibling for Sara.
After spending months looking for and eliminating my options, I was fortunate to meet Suad, a lovely Moroccan friend, now residing in the UK. She put me in touch with a few of her friends in Meknes, Morocco and with the Rita Zniber Fondation, which is the inspiring orphanage where we later met our son. We went to visit the orphanage and were impressed to see how well the kids were cared for. We met Ouafae who is in charge of all adoptions. She was reassuring and easy to talk to. She took time to explain the legalities, the process, the cost and any implications of being the first family from the UK to gain kafala. Ouafae was interested to hear about the UK homestudy and country requirements. We left feeling comfortable that we could comply with both Moroccan law and the UK adoption/immigration law, that the orphanage was hands on during the entire process and that our time spent away from home would be minimal.
But in this excitement we were still very nervous. We were fearful of being the first British couple to adopt since Morocco had lifted its ban on international adoptions. Why had nobody else adopted from Morocco? Was there something we didn’t know? We didn’t have anyone before us we could refer to with shared experiences of Moroccan adoption. There wasn’t any UK based resources or support groups to aid us in our journey. It was time to put our trust in Allah.
When we started the kafala process in Morocco, the orphanage were well organised and took control giving us instructions for that day. What we realised is that we lacked a full understanding of the process before we left the UK. We were fortunate to meet an American couple who were also going through the kafala process and appeared more informed about the significance of each day and what the rest of the process would entail. They had a folder of notes they had received from their agency in America to prepare them for this process. I could see they were going through the process with less anxiety. This is when I felt it would be beneficial to write up our whole experience to make it easier for couples that follow us from the UK. I pray any families that follow us will be able to enjoy their time in Morocco by being in an informed position about the adoption process and what takes place each day.
For those people that are considering whether the option journey is right for them, or indeed has already started the journey. I wish this website will provide a useful resource to support you in your research and provide a good source of reference. We’ve learnt that this journey is easier when we have a circle of friends that can support us through the ups and downs. We have therefore started a WhatsApp group and a facebook page (Moroccan Adoptions (kafala) for you to connect with others that share your experience and can encourage and support your journey.
I have learned that family and friends are what make us who we are today and without them we would never be complete. The friends that we have made during our own adoption journey will be our friends for life. Our children are truly a blessing from God.
Sa’Diyya and Asif